One day when I was nursing one of the boys my mom asked me "If you had a girl, do you think you would have breastfed this long?" A pretty disturbing question. You don't know my mom, but she's not very accepting of gays or lesbians. It makes sense that she would ask that question. But it's also very wrong that she would suggest breastfeeding would have anything to with sex.
She asked it so innocently. It makes me laugh inside. I can tell you that she doesn't realize what she's suggesting. For her, it's simple. Breastfeeding older boys is ok because they are boys. And I'm a girl. But if I were breastfeeding an older girl? A girl sucking on another girl's breast? That's lesbian behavior - to her. Her mind ignores certain key facts in the situation. For instance the fact that I'm a mother, and these are my children, have been omitted. So the question of sexuality comes up.
I can laugh inside because I know my mother is "innocent." She knows my breastfeeding is a thing to be proud of. She only speaks highly of me and how I'm such an amazing mother. But it saddens me that there are people that do mix up sexuality with breastfeeding. And they shouldn't. Sex and family is incest. I'm sure I don't have to tell you that breastfeeding, toddler breastfeeding, is absolutely, one thousand percent, NOT incest.